Being Single 101: Who are you???

Whats wrong with ALL these SINGLE people!!!!

Real Housewives? ..Ummm that’s up in the air?….Real Men? Are there many out there?

With the raging epidemic of reality shows about real housewives, real NBA and NFL…..wives I guess, what about a show for Real Men? I wonder why this idea hasn’t surfaced yet…perhaps I’m in the wrong profession. Is it because there aren’t many real men to choose from, or having a show about real men wouldn’t make the rating? I’m not so sure but here’s  what a real lady wants from a real man.  Let’s start with the basics. Men- it is your responsibility to first know yourself then know how to treat a woman. It‘s impossible to give anything to a woman if you are unsure of who you are, and what you really want. If you do not know who you are(what you want)  try discovering that before you pursue a relationship. If you do not know how to treat a woman, learn. Simply put. This is not some one size fit all ordeal. I am sure guys you have it to some element, but what may work for me, does not work for every BODY. Being genuinely concerned for her wellbeing, emotionally, physically, and mentally is a start. Tuning in to what she needs/wants should be a follow up. Very basic information, one would think. Over time I have found that it is really not so basic. Perhaps it may be due to the fact that many women like a variety of things; or think they like things that they really do not(leaving men clueless). Well men, f.y.i its probably because  so many women have not been afforded the opportunity to be treated correctly(BY A REAL MAN) therefore their ability to discern when they are, is not accurate. Drum roll please…….Real men you have to find out what women want and need, AFTER you have figured out what you want……..

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words DO HURT me!!

I know this title is a bit cliché, but if we all be honest for one moment words can hurt. They especially have the tendency to cut really deep when it’s from someone you love or care about. Couples need to learn to communicate….effectively. Communication is not yelling, screaming, or getting your point across. Communication is talking, listening, and constructive feedback. This time you may be wrong. Take time to analyze the situation before you shoot off grenades. MOST IMPORTANTLY- when you realize you are wrong, apologize. If you do not know how try is……Explain your initial reaction then transition into how you understand where your partner was coming from. Name-calling, pointing fingers, and telling someone who they are(stupid, irresponsible, ignorant) or what they do( never take out the trash, talk too much, always get on my nerves, etc) is wrong. I feel statements work the best. Example “Most times I feel that you are not responsive when I talk to you, and it hurts me”. NOT” You always get on my nerves when I’m talking to you and you ignore me”. Which one sounds best to you???? All in all….learn how to communicate, it’s key.

A double-minded woman is unstable in all her ways........

Women- know what you want. If you are unsure, perhaps you are not ready for a relationship. Understand what you are and are not willing to deal with, accept, etc. Over time you may mature and realize that certain things on your “must-have-list” are unimportant. Hopefully you will realize this sooner rather than later. Try to minimize your list to your top three qualities. Hone in on those rather than the umpteen hundred, that really do not matter.