Women- know what you want. If you are unsure, perhaps you are not ready for a relationship. Understand what you are and are not willing to deal with, accept, etc. Over time you may mature and realize that certain things on your “must-have-list” are unimportant. Hopefully you will realize this sooner rather than later. Try to minimize your list to your top three qualities. Hone in on those rather than the umpteen hundred, that really do not matter.
Wonderful response to your statement. Women need to realize this a lot sooner. You would rather grow old and complain with someone than old and alone. The phrase I can do bad by myself is used for everything now. That was originally meant for anybody in a unhealthy relationship. Now people specifically women, use that for anything that they don't think they can compromise for their own happiness. The shining armored knight is not going to arrive (99 percent of the time) anytime soon. Find the top three qualities you need like Kristin said and work from there. This will alleviate a lot of bullshhhhh. Goood Morning everybody, signed 2womuchME
ReplyDeleteAgreed! I had to learn this through experience. I used to be, what my mom would call, a bledding heart. I used to look only at the way a guy would make me feel as opposed to that along with him meeting my standards. Needless to say, I always ended up being the only person bringing something to the table & I never thought of it like this, but I was always taking care of someone else.
ReplyDeleteThen, I went to being super picky. Wanting ALL of my standards being hit because I was tired of taking care of someone else and being taken advantage of and I wanted someone to wine and dine me and take care of me for once. Needless to say, that didn't work out very well lol. I never found what I was looking for because I felt no one was good enough.
So, I realized...Noey, you gotta chill. Just do you and love will find you. So now when I meet a man, I only have a few qualities that I expect out of a guy and they are much more realistic. Needless to say, I'm a lot happier in my dating life lol.
xoxo, Noey. ♥
Thanks guys for the post. Great feedback. Noey I like how you pointed out that NOW your dating life is a lot better.....
ReplyDeleteI have my very short "must have list" and I have narrowed it down to the point that I am not willing to compromise on it any further. It's very basic and men are still falling short. *Note* I have not given up on my brothers!
ReplyDeleteGreat points everyone. John and Kristen I definitely agree that women should know what they want, but us men also have to know what we want. A lot of times, we know we aren't really looking for a long-term relationship but stay with the woman because of the benefits so to speak. The problem I have with women today is the "I can do bad all by myself" mentality as John said. No matter how much people say they are happy being single, everyone needs and wants someone to love. Noey I definitely commend you for learning from experience. This is the only way that people can move forward with waiting for that special person or maintaining a good relationship. I personally learned from my last relationship that she did not love her self first, which in turn didn't love me. THIS WILL NOT WORK! Gapeach never compromise. I myself have learned to do this and basically found myself still having women that are falling short or not meeting the "list". I also have not given up on my sisters, but patience will pay off in the end..
ReplyDeleteJohn b you must be in my mind.. I will address the men tomorrow. I also feel, in regards to your previous relationship it is easy for our judgment to be clouded by the ones we are dating. I am a believer that time will tell, and with time we realize things like our bf/gf has low self esteem, is jealous or is just plain crazy. When dating it is extremely important for me to get to know the character of a person above all else.
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